We are in the sixth month of the year 2016, and it looks as if most of us are already faltering on our new year resolutions. some have even given up on theirs. Slowly and gradually we have crawled back to our old habits like a mother tortoise back to the sea after laying it eggs at shore. Upon all the resolutions we made to ourselves earlier this year nothing seems to have resolved. I have come to see new year resolutions as a platitude; a to do list for the first month of the year. A banality that we use to praise ourselves in hope that we will change and be a better version of ourselves, just because is a new year. Research even shows that, over 90% of new year’s resolutions ends up as a failure. The coming of a new year to me is just a counting system for the world, so we keep in perspective how far we have come in years. Below are my reasons why I think new year resolutions has become a trite of conventionality.
We focus on the starting and ending of a year, instead of the whole year itself
There are a lot to be done in a year and it does not matter whether is the start of a year or the end of a year. If you are someone who waits and uses the end of the year and the coming of a new year or the start of a new year to examine your actions, evaluate your performance, become more conscious of your life purpose and before you think of making those inevitable changes, then am sorry. Even business companies who deal in fiscal year’s even have weekly and monthly reviews and try to evaluate themselves quarterly to see how best they are faring. Why not forget whether is a new year, when you want to make a change, and give up that habit, as to when your conscience tells you to. just because is a new year does not make things any easier. If you decide in your heart to make a change you will, be it on 1st january or 13th august. it’s not the ending or starting year that will make you change. What we fail to understand is that, a shift from 31st december to 1st january of another year, is no different from the any other shift of day to a new day of the same month. There is no mojo that comes with a new year; I mean do you see any natural change in the environment or in our lives to tell we are in a new year. Have you ever asked yourself why the academic calendar does not start in january and end in december? because that does not really matter, is your academic performance in the end that matters. You have to be conscious of yourself every moment, putting your actions into perspective, evaluating every event of your life as they happen. whether we are one month into the year or six months into the year. Something interesting happens when we are 6months into the year. that is when it hits us; we are half way into the year what have we done so far, what am I doing? people start to ask us and remind us of our year resolutions. Pastors make it their sermons; there and then we reaffirm our commitment and start pounding on our bleak resolutions again, to make them a december reality. When it is 3 month to the end of the year, we become frustrated, since our hope of what we wanted to achieve, who we envisioned to be at the end of the year have all eluded us. Most of us finally give up on that new year turn old year resolutions, by october. with the excuse that the year is almost over and I cannot make it on those resolutions this year. The Funny thing is the same excuse surface the next year and the next year as the new year rollercoaster keeps on rolling. To achieve your new year resolutions, focus on what you do throughout the days, weeks and months of the whole year instead.
We rely on external motivations without any self-motivation
If you are someone who always relies on motivations and encouragements from family, friends, church and your superiors to act, then you are nearing a robot. Those of us who depend on new year wishes, your churches theme of the year, a new season or a spark from an event to get things done, we should know we will not go far. am not saying these motivations are not good am just saying, these sources of motivation are not going to be around forever. Eventually it will come down to you and what you can do for yourself. external motivations, will come and go but is what you have within that is going stick with you forever. These external sources of motivation and encouragement are very important in helping a person change, but they must be there to compliment an already existing self-motivation from within. An inner burning desire by the individual to change. that’s your inner zeal to do the right thing, to make a change for the better no matter what the circumstance. Something inside so strong that can keep you going through the lonely but not alone journeys of life. This desire to change is internalized within and will not be weaved by either the happenings of the environment, the going of an old year or the coming of new year. Most of us make the fact that a new year is coming, our pool of motivation to change and the arrival of a new year our well of will power to act. during such times, we could hear the world whisper to us, it’s a new year; do something, it’s a new year; start following your dreams again, it’s a new year; won’t you change that habit once and for all? truly is a new year, but that’s not all it takes, to make a change or see a resolution turn into a good habit. Trust me you need more than just the appearance of a new year. You need to be self-motivated, self-discipline, determine and proactive. A reason from within to change based on your values, principles and life purpose. believe me, it is not the happy new year greetings from friends and family that is going to make the year a happy one for you. Or even the well wishes that follows but the quality of your choices, decision, actions and reactions. Some people think because is the start of a new year, god is going to come down like “father christmas” and start sharing good grades, financial freedom, righteous life, good marriage, american visa, job employments and promotions. no! it does not work that way. It is not your church’s theme of the year like my year of restoration, prosperity, breakthrough and favour that will make your ways prosperous but your commitment, selflessness, obedience to his word and the zeal you attach to the things of the lord. So stop focusing on the new year like it holds some mojo for us to achieve all that we wish for. It all depends on something inside, so strong that it makes you wake up every morning ready to do your best for yourself and the world be it in the mornings of january or in the mornings of june.
We make resolutions without setting goals
A new year does not automatically mean new things will come into our lives; it will all depend on you. Resolution is simply a vow, a promise to oneself, to do or change for the better. The desired end result or target you want to achieve because of the resolution is the goal. Whenever we want to make a change or achieve something in life we don’t just resolve to do it and then go do it. we don’t just, decide to do something, go sit and watch it unfold like an adventure movie story being unraveled. We plan, set goals and milestone of achievements that will make that resolution a reality. whatever you want in life, whatever change you desire, whatever relationship you want to build, you have to work at it with clear achievable goals, actions step and strategies to back those actions. You then resolve every day to go do the things that will take you closer to the set goals. Don’t worry about the resolution you’ve made, so far as you have goals emanating from the resolution, you are on cause. The resolution will then become a self-fulfilling prophecy that comes to pass as the set goals are being achieved. Most resolutions are for life time changes and commitments, some requires a gradual process and takes long time even more than a year as we have taking resolution mostly to be. The thing is, there is no need to be chanting new resolutions every new year but it can be an old resolution moving to the next level the next year. For me yearly resolutions come down to daily activities geared towards achieving a goal to make that resolution a reality. As I said in one of my daily quote messages “we don’t need a new year resolution but a new day resolution to a new year goal.” This is the reason why I believe as individuals, families, organization and even as a country we don’t need a resolution every new year but a resolution every new day to commit and work towards achieving a set goal. For instance, if you want to get better grades at school this year that’s your goal, then you resolve to do something every day to achieve that resolution in the end; which will your resolution. maybe I will have to learn 2 hours every day, go for every classes and solve a lot of questions. and in so doing your goal will be realized and you will have that better grades at school.
It is our attitudes, habits, focuses and believes that needs a resolution otherwise you can have 1000 new year’s come and go and you will still remain the same, unable to accomplish anything. So although we are already in the sixth month of 2016, you can still make that resolution and start your quest of making some changes, improving on your human relationship and self-development. Shift your focus from the old or new year and focus on your life decisions as the days goes by, set goals to match your resolutions and finally relying on self-motivation, determination and discipline; for in these lies the realization of your resolutions. Selah!!!